The Complete Book of Rules: Time-tested secrets for capturing the heart of Mr Right

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Editorial reviews

Synopsis
The very best advice from "The Rules" and "The Rules 2" is brought together to provide the ultimate guide to successful dating. The notorious dating handbook comprises many tips such as "Never call a man first" (designed to make "Mr Right" hungry for more) which, although old-fashioned, has been found effective by millions of women worldwide. Other essential advice offered: always end the first date - it will leave him desperate for more; don't call him - it will make him desire you more; never accept a Saturday night date after Wednesday - it will encourage him to phone sooner; always end the telephone conversation first -it will leave him wanting more; don't rush into sex - let his passion build.

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From the Inside Flap
The Shoot from the hip guide to finding, marrying and keeping Mr Right

The rules are infamous, controversial, and importantly for you - probably the most successful guide to dating ever written. These astonishingly effective Rules will ensure you're prepared for every move in the dating game.

Brought together in a single volume for the first time, The Complete Book of Rules contains the essential advice from The Rules and The Rules II and is a must for women who want nothing but the best in life and love.

Don't call him - it will make him desire you more

Always end the date first - it will leave desperate for more

How to behave in an office romance

How to make sure the relationship doesn't tail off - if you don't want it to.

The Complete Book of Rules will ensure you don't waste time when a man's not worth it and that you do give off the right signals at the right time to keep Mr Right keen.

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Customer reviews

review by: Matthew.H date: 2008-08-19 rating:
A male dating coach's perspective on 'The Rules'
I believe this book comes from a good place in its intention to empower women, and indeed the advice may work, but not as claimed. As a professional dating coach for GetTheGuy.co.uk in London many women quote me `The Rules'. It appears to be game playing at its extreme, telling women to maintain a facade of being busy, interesting and mysterious. Why the authors have such low expectations of their readers that they assume they have to fake these things is slightly bemusing. Basically it is about appearing `Hard to Get'. Of course there's nothing wrong with being a little bit unavailable, so the author's advice - don't talk to a man first, end calls first, never accept last minute dates etc. - is by no means unfounded, but contains some fatal flaws:

1. For every girl playing games there's a guy:
Like attracts like. Such tactics are likely to land you someone who employs similar tactics. You could turn those straight up guys you desire into a game players themselves if they feel the need to resort to such tactics to compete. Guys are much quicker to recognise game playing than you think. Who wins?

2. Is this a sustainable set of tools for getting the guy?
This is a quick fix mentality which says - keep pretending long enough and he'll ask you to marry him (Yes, the authors also stereotype every woman on the planet as marriage hungry). When you stop playing hard to get, will he be left wondering whether the REAL you is enough. Playing hard to get requires no charisma or personality; it takes courage to be yourself. This book is only quick fixes, illustrated by: "If you have a bad nose, GET A NOSE JOB."

3. Would you be attracted to a guy if you knew he was manipulating you?
If the answer is no, then DONT DO IT. If you want great relationships, don't be a hypocrite.

4. Apparently shy guys don't exist, and never have
Their message is: "If a man doesn't walk across the room to seek you out...then he's obviously not interested". Having coached men as well as women I know that a guy may think your a goddess, but that doesn't mean he'll have the confidence to approach you.

5. "You have to wait for someone to notice you"
Is this really the face of empowerment for women? Women deserve better, especially from their own. They say women who are forward "always end up heart broken when their forwardness is rebuffed". What are the chances of every guy you are interested in making the move you want? We teach not how to avoid rejection, but how to make things happen in spite of rejection. Would you rather be alone with no rejections, or with the man of your choice with a few healthy rejections under your belt?

Conclusion

If you want some light entertainment, or you just plain dislike the very men you are trying to be with, read this book. If you want genuinely practical and proven advice about being more attractive to men, steer clear.
The book states that "It's better to stay at home and read The Rules than go out and break them". I put to you that it is better to go out and meet new and interesting people than to sit at home and read a book telling you to wait to be noticed.

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review by: date: 2008-02-20 rating:
FANTASTIC ADVICE!!
Exactly the same advice your mother or grandmother might have given you to survive the "dating game" with your heart intact and Mr. Right beside you at the altar. I read and reread the book, then did it all in my very next relationship. Result?? One wonderful man and a proposal of marriage! We'll be celebrating 5 years of an extremely happy marriage next month! I'd heartily recommend this book to every woman who's tired of wasting time on commitment-shy losers waiting to move in and be supported by "liberated" ladies. Guys - if you're reading it and are "shocked", I suggest you straighten up your act if you want to catch (and hold onto) a REAL woman!

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review by: date: 2008-02-16 rating:
smart rules
Clever women will read between the lines of this book, and realise that the central message is ultimately about self-respect.

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review by: date: 2008-02-07 rating:
Some great advice, classic, but remember not to take 100% of instructions way too seriously.
In short this book is about meeting and keeping the right stalker!! I don't think you can apply all of the advices. But the old game of manipulation works miracles and not only in relationship with men, with freinds and anybody for that matter. It is a MUST-READ nevertheless!!!!!


review by: date: 2008-02-01 rating:
OK but take some advice with a pinch of salt
Every guy I know has moaned about some ex-girlfriend who he got bored with because she was too nice/clingy. Men like independent, confident women who have their own lives. Ironically, the more independent you are and the less you "need" the man, the more he is desperate to chase/spend time with you. Anybody who has been in a relationship will know this is true!

All The Rules does is try to convert nice/clingy women into independent strong ones.

Most of the advice in The Rules is good - but it goes too far. Yes I agree that we shouldn't be calling/texting guys all the time - but not returning calls at all? That is just rude!

I think The Rules are best for women who are usually doormats and find they are constantly being dumped on. But they can offer some help to women of the opposite persuasion - career driven, wealthly and independent: don't emasculate the guy: let him chase. Apparently he likes it!

Advice: read The Rules then use your common sense depending on the situation. You must modify The Rules depending on the sensitivity of the guy you are with. If he is a nice guy then he won't mess you around anyway. If he is a player then you need to apply The Rules more strictly.

Worth a read just for entertainment value!

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